The JUST SAY NO Habit

The JUST SAY NO Habit

I’m playing with a new habit these days: The JUST SAY NO habit. It’s an experiment to build up my “No” muscle which has atrophied over the past 18 months. Like the rest of the world, I didn’t have much to say no to (aside from Netflix and...
Approval Seeking: Why We Do It & And How To Let it Go

Approval Seeking: Why We Do It & And How To Let it Go

When’s the last time you craved approval? I’m not referring to an official type of approval, like from a bank for your mortgage, or from a client for your project to move forward. I’m talking about someone else seeing you and giving you that ‘ya done good, kid’ pat on...
How Do You Turn Anger Into Lighter Fluid?

How Do You Turn Anger Into Lighter Fluid?

Happy Birthday to me! This month as I turn 50, I’ve been reflecting more than usual on what’s important to me. This includes permission to feel the full range of human emotions and allow them to guide us into action that supports our values and the impact...
A Short Lesson on Barriers

A Short Lesson on Barriers

Today I drove through a toll gate barrier. Yup. The Mazdarati busted right through it. Nope, I wasn’t on the run from the law. Exiting 94 in Indiana, I just didn’t see it. The sun glared blending the barrier right into the highway. My foot came off the gas just enough...
Self Expression (or Knowing When To Call in The Wolf)

Self Expression (or Knowing When To Call in The Wolf)

This is the second in a series of five blog posts on the key components of Emotional Intelligence: Self Perception, Self Expression, Interpersonal Relationships, Decision Making and Stress Management. In our last blog post, we spoke about Self Perception. Today we’re...