melissa thornley

Acknowledgment: Accepting & Embracing the Year You’ve Had

Our theme for December is Acknowledgment. Acknowledgment is simply: acceptance of the truth or existence of something. No judgment necessary. Some things may not be cause for celebration, but by acknowledging them, we can honor their existence and move on. With all...

Lowering Stress Without Adding to Our Plate

There’s a lot out there about stress management. And with good reason. Many of the organizations I work with have noticed that their leaders are suffering from burnout or are languishing (sense of emptiness, stagnation, ennui). Maybe this is you; maybe it’s...

Teamwork = Relationships + Results

Want to know the secret to just about everything? Pay attention. Slow down. Play nice. You can apply the above rules anywhere, but they are particularly critical to teamwork, whether you’re the official manager of the team or are leading as a team player. Let’s...

Personal Accountability: A Balancing Act

Balance beams still cause a wave of anxiety in me. One of my worst gym class memories was somersaulting off of a balance beam. It wasn’t a high beam and I landed on a mat, but I still got a big nasty bruise down my back. Why was somersaulting on a balance beam even...

The Power of One Small Change

Nothing like moving a few pieces of furniture around to shift perspective. My office was starting to feel stagnant so Sunday I came in to reevaluate. I moved my desk and the shelves. Even the printer table found a new home. It was like a magic trick. My office...

The JUST SAY NO Habit

I'm playing with a new habit these days: The JUST SAY NO habit. It's an experiment to build up my "No" muscle which has atrophied over the past 18 months. Like the rest of the world, I didn't have much to say no to (aside from Netflix and zoom cocktails). Now I'm...

Approval Seeking: Why We Do It & And How To Let it Go

When’s the last time you craved approval? I’m not referring to an official type of approval, like from a bank for your mortgage, or from a client for your project to move forward. I’m talking about someone else seeing you and giving you that ‘ya done good, kid’ pat...

Who We Choose to be Unmasked: A Story on Being Nice vs. Kind

How’s your newly unmasked life going? At the beginning of the pandemic, it took us more than a minute to figure out how to communicate beyond our masks. We learned to speak up and enunciate. We got “smizing” down.  On the flip side, masks offered us a place to...

How Do You Turn Anger Into Lighter Fluid?

Happy Birthday to me! This month as I turn 50, I've been reflecting more than usual on what's important to me. This includes permission to feel the full range of human emotions and allow them to guide us into action that supports our values and the impact we want...

Adventures in Outta Space

  If we want results, we need space. Space to think. Space to work. Space to dream. Space to create. So what do we do now? How do we cope when everything happens in the same space all of the time? Here's how I've been doing it in my space:...